That is a very powerful statement and is worth repeating....  What other people think of you is none of your business.

I learned this a few years ago from a very wise woman, and remember very clearly when I heard it the first time how brilliant I thought it was. There is something very freeing in this message, I believe. Which is not to say that we can do whatever we like, and not have to think about the consequences or how our actions affect others, but simply that when we start making choices for ourselves, to look after ourselves,  that sometimes this inconveniences others as meeting their needs is no longer our priority.

Typically when we change our patterns of behaviour it's quite possible that it will upset at least someone in our lives. When taking a stand on moving forward with creating the things that you want in your life, you may have to come to terms with upsetting others; however, how you living your life may inconvenience others is their business to deal with. Women in particular have a very difficult time sometimes in putting themselves first and taking care of themselves. In part this is because of how busy our lives are, and many women today are wives and mothers with jobs or careers along with a myriad of commitments and responsibilities. However, if we aren't taking care of ourselves then how effective are we in all these other roles?

I would like to propose a challenge for you. This week, say no to a request that is made of you that you really don't want to do, but perhaps feel you "should". Politely state that you are not able to accommodate the request without explanation, and understand that whatever you believe the person is thinking or feeling about you because of your decision is really all about them, and has actually nothing to do with you.

I would enjoy hearing how you made out.